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Getting a J.O.B. is an investment not a sign of failure

business-money-pink-coinsDoes getting a J.O.B. mean you are a failure as an entrepreneur and business owner?

Twice a month I run group coaching and mentoring calls in the WOBS Plus Coaching and Mentoring and members can drop in at any time during the 90 minute sessions to ask for help on any topic in their business and this week was no exception with the variety of topics:

  • Self Value
  • Client boundaries
  • Creating a ring bound workbook and music DVD
  • Garage Band (music creation software)
  • and the stigma around getting a J.O.B – which is the topic of todays brief post.

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Examine and Challenge Your Beliefs

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This is number two post on the subject of beliefs (first one was a biggie all about the Formation, Function and Effects of Beliefs and probably only suitable reading for those of us who like a bit of background and research – my inner ‘nerdy geek’ likes to be let loose from time to time!)

This is a more practical one for you to get stuck into – and fab if you feel you are not progressing as you would like to be and sense you are holding yourself back. Might be time to ‘upgrade your thinking’.

Do you sabotage yourself with criticisms and negative mind chatter?

  • Do you catch yourself thinking you are not smart or good enough?
  • Do you think you don’t deserve good things or it’s too hard?
  • Are you over-sensitive about what others say or do?

You can start this change now by examining the beliefs you hold about yourself. Simply knowing what holds you back can make a massive difference.

You can do this by examining your beliefs, challenging some that are a bit old and dusty and have served you well and yes ‘developing’ new ones that are in line with and support your vision.

Of course, personal development work is easier when you work with a coach (I would say that!); but for those of you who know me, I’m all for doing as much as you can on your own – and when you keep on hitting the same old blocks – then it might be time to invest some more and book some time with a coach.

Have bash with these and do let me know how you get on.

1. Make two lists:

In the first, list all the positive beliefs you have about yourself, all the things that you are good at. In the second, list all the negative beliefs you have about yourself, the things you are not good at.

2. Positive beliefs about myself:

3. Negative beliefs about myself:

4.  Look at the list of positive beliefs and spend a few moments on each one.

Remember the positive things that happened to lead you to hold those beliefs and write them down …

5. Now look at your list of negative beliefs

Take the top three.  The ones that really hold you back.

Ask yourself:-

  1. Where did this belief come from?
  2. Who gave me this belief?
  3. How do I feel about the person that gave me this belief? Do I respect them? Are/were they always right? What is their history?
  4. What is this belief costing me on a daily basis?
  5. What will holding this belief mean for me in the long term? and what will that mean
  6. How will my life be different if let go of this belief?

Now write an opposite belief to the one you hold. For example if your belief is,

“I am too old to change careers to become a x y z”, you could reframe your belief to be, “This is the perfect age to consider a change and I bring to my new career my wealth of life experience to date.”

 Actively look for evidence to support your new belief. You will find it. Keep a journal and record your success.

My first new belief is:

My next new belief is:

Define your new comfort zones and self-talk and decide what action you are going to take.

My new comfort zones are:

My new self-talk is:

I am actively going to:

You may find it easier to print down the document and pin it up and add to it – Examine Beliefs worksheet

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How Balanced is your Life?

Everyone knows that having a balance in life is important because we can be more content and more alive and really enjoy what we are doing.

The Wheel of Life activity below is a simple and very effective way of showing us how our life is balanced at any particular time.

Wheel of Life Part One

1. Identify 8 (ish!) key areas of your life. (brainstorm a number of issues or key areas in your life that are important for you and choose the 8 most important.)
You could choose from:-

  • career/work
  • personal development and growth (whatever that might mean for you)
  • friends and family (or even into two separate areas)
  • partner or significant other
  • financial
  • spiritual life
  • physical environment (where you are living, how you are living)
  • fun and recreation (this crops up almost as often as career)
  • health and vitality (also crops up almost as often as career)
  • emotional well being
  • social life

2. Now score each area of your life out of 10
10 = you are totally satisfied with this area of your life
1 = where you are less satisfied
If you are very satisfied with an aspect of your life, it would be 10 and if you are less satisfied it would be 1. So, every area of your life is going to be anywhere on that scale of 1-10.wheel web

3. Plot your scores in a blank ‘wheel’ CLICK HERE,  your result shows you the degree to which you are satisfied with your own level of balance in your life. Which are your low spots – the areas you are least satisfied with?

Wheel of Life Part Two

1. Now draw a circle around the first circle and for each segment take some time to think what a ‘10’ would be like – you are starting to look at your goals. For example if you have a segment for ‘Fitness’ – be a little more specific. What would a ‘10’ actually mean for you? Running a marathon? Attending a gym class twice a week?

  • What are you doing that tells you this is a ‘10’? What are you hearing, seeing, feeling that tells you it’s a ‘10’?
  • What do you really want?
  • Because we tend to get what we focus on, you need to ensure any goals you set are stated in positive terms. For example, if you want to be less stressed, turn it round and say you would like to feel relaxed, calm and at peace etc

It’s so easy to lose the sight of a balance in our lives and this exercise very quickly raises awareness. Now for some ‘quick-wins’ to get you motivated; go through each segment and ask yourself what needs to happen to get closer to the ‘10’, and what do I need to do? Write down what you could you do in the next 24-48 hours. What will you do first?

Comfort Zone – expansion

This 2014 blog, was ‘turned into’ or re-purposed into this video by Helen Lindop Video, Voice-Over and E-Learning expert (and all round good egg!)

Clever Huh!

 Original Blog from May 2014 below that Helen used for the video:

life-begins-comfort-zoneWhat …

What’s a comfort zone?  What does it mean to you?

When you look at your own comfort zone and take time to explore it, you can discover more clearly whether you want to make any changes to your life.

Why …

It’s good to choose whether you want to change or not so you are in the driving seat of your own life.

 How …

  1. Look at the section “What’s your comfort zone like?”  What words or phrases sum up your life at the moment?  Write down whatever comes to mind and reflect on what you’ve said.   What do you like and what do you want to keep the same?  What do you want to change?  Circle the word(s) you want to change.
  2. Focus on “Your new expanded comfort zone”    Look at the word(s) you’ve circled.  How would you like to change them?  How would you like these word(s) to be different?  Can you re-phrase them?  If so, write your new word(s) down in this new zone.  How would your life be different in this expanded zone?  What do you notice?

comfort zone image

 

And Then …

It’s good to acknowledge what’s working well in your life as well as taking time to explore new possibilities.  Thinking about where you are now is a good starting place to reflect on how you want to change and grow.  You can discuss this in greater detail with your coach.

 

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This 2014 blog, was ‘turned into’ or re-purposed into this video by Helen Lindop Video, Voice-Over and E-Learning expert (and all round good egg!)

Clever Huh!

Our WOBS members use our Facebook group as a major part of their support and advice networks – and you too, can benefit from that help and support, by taking out a free one-month trial. Find out more & get your first month free.