This is number two post on the subject of beliefs (first one was a biggie all about the Formation, Function and Effects of Beliefs and probably only suitable reading for those of us who like a bit of background and research – my inner ‘nerdy geek’ likes to be let loose from time to time!)
This is a more practical one for you to get stuck into – and fab if you feel you are not progressing as you would like to be and sense you are holding yourself back. Might be time to ‘upgrade your thinking’.
Do you sabotage yourself with criticisms and negative mind chatter?
- Do you catch yourself thinking you are not smart or good enough?
- Do you think you don’t deserve good things or it’s too hard?
- Are you over-sensitive about what others say or do?
You can start this change now by examining the beliefs you hold about yourself. Simply knowing what holds you back can make a massive difference.
You can do this by examining your beliefs, challenging some that are a bit old and dusty and have served you well and yes ‘developing’ new ones that are in line with and support your vision.
Of course, personal development work is easier when you work with a coach (I would say that!); but for those of you who know me, I’m all for doing as much as you can on your own – and when you keep on hitting the same old blocks – then it might be time to invest some more and book some time with a coach.
Have bash with these and do let me know how you get on.
1. Make two lists:
In the first, list all the positive beliefs you have about yourself, all the things that you are good at. In the second, list all the negative beliefs you have about yourself, the things you are not good at.
2. Positive beliefs about myself:
3. Negative beliefs about myself:
4. Look at the list of positive beliefs and spend a few moments on each one.
Remember the positive things that happened to lead you to hold those beliefs and write them down …
5. Now look at your list of negative beliefs
Take the top three. The ones that really hold you back.
- Where did this belief come from?
- Who gave me this belief?
- How do I feel about the person that gave me this belief? Do I respect them? Are/were they always right? What is their history?
- What is this belief costing me on a daily basis?
- What will holding this belief mean for me in the long term? and what will that mean
- How will my life be different if let go of this belief?
Now write an opposite belief to the one you hold. For example if your belief is,
“I am too old to change careers to become a x y z”, you could reframe your belief to be, “This is the perfect age to consider a change and I bring to my new career my wealth of life experience to date.”
Actively look for evidence to support your new belief. You will find it. Keep a journal and record your success.
My first new belief is:
My next new belief is:
Define your new comfort zones and self-talk and decide what action you are going to take.
My new comfort zones are:
My new self-talk is:
I am actively going to:
You may find it easier to print down the document and pin it up and add to it – Examine Beliefs worksheet
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