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When Social Media Overwhelms – 7 Strategies to Deal with ‘Am I Good Enough’

NSBAAHMI38 (1) womanm back to usThis was the question recently posted in our WOBS Online Facebook group by one of members – and here is a summary of the advice posted in response.

“As soon as I look at social media I feel low. And it’s not looking at my friend’s holiday snaps that do it. It’s all the biz related stuff. I am bombarded by people / ads all telling me how to be successful and how successful they are. It brings up feelings of not being enough, of failing. I know the simple solution is to not check social media but I have these same feelings when I’m in work mode. Yet I know social media is an integral part of my business. I can tell myself a million times over not to compare but I can’t help it. It just happens.

Tips on dealing with this please. I can’t not be on social media but how do I manage the negative feelings it brings up in me?”

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Examine and Challenge Your Beliefs

275H winnerHello again

This is number two post on the subject of beliefs (first one was a biggie all about the Formation, Function and Effects of Beliefs and probably only suitable reading for those of us who like a bit of background and research – my inner ‘nerdy geek’ likes to be let loose from time to time!)

This is a more practical one for you to get stuck into – and fab if you feel you are not progressing as you would like to be and sense you are holding yourself back. Might be time to ‘upgrade your thinking’.

Do you sabotage yourself with criticisms and negative mind chatter?

  • Do you catch yourself thinking you are not smart or good enough?
  • Do you think you don’t deserve good things or it’s too hard?
  • Are you over-sensitive about what others say or do?

You can start this change now by examining the beliefs you hold about yourself. Simply knowing what holds you back can make a massive difference.

You can do this by examining your beliefs, challenging some that are a bit old and dusty and have served you well and yes ‘developing’ new ones that are in line with and support your vision.

Of course, personal development work is easier when you work with a coach (I would say that!); but for those of you who know me, I’m all for doing as much as you can on your own – and when you keep on hitting the same old blocks – then it might be time to invest some more and book some time with a coach.

Have bash with these and do let me know how you get on.

1. Make two lists:

In the first, list all the positive beliefs you have about yourself, all the things that you are good at. In the second, list all the negative beliefs you have about yourself, the things you are not good at.

2. Positive beliefs about myself:

3. Negative beliefs about myself:

4.  Look at the list of positive beliefs and spend a few moments on each one.

Remember the positive things that happened to lead you to hold those beliefs and write them down …

5. Now look at your list of negative beliefs

Take the top three.  The ones that really hold you back.

Ask yourself:-

  1. Where did this belief come from?
  2. Who gave me this belief?
  3. How do I feel about the person that gave me this belief? Do I respect them? Are/were they always right? What is their history?
  4. What is this belief costing me on a daily basis?
  5. What will holding this belief mean for me in the long term? and what will that mean
  6. How will my life be different if let go of this belief?

Now write an opposite belief to the one you hold. For example if your belief is,

“I am too old to change careers to become a x y z”, you could reframe your belief to be, “This is the perfect age to consider a change and I bring to my new career my wealth of life experience to date.”

 Actively look for evidence to support your new belief. You will find it. Keep a journal and record your success.

My first new belief is:

My next new belief is:

Define your new comfort zones and self-talk and decide what action you are going to take.

My new comfort zones are:

My new self-talk is:

I am actively going to:

You may find it easier to print down the document and pin it up and add to it – Examine Beliefs worksheet

Our WOBS members use our Facebook group as a major part of their support and advice networks – and you too, can benefit from that help and support, by taking out a free one-month trial. Find out more & get your first month free.

Women On the Business Stage

Not again!” I muttered under by breath – a panel of all male speakers at an event, with not a woman in sight!

This was 2011 and I found myself getting quite irritated with the speakers when in fact, I was irritated with myself for having the skills and experince to do something about this, (after all I had been coaching people to have the confidence, self-belief and the skills to speak-up for years) and anyway how often did I volunteer to speak?!

After hanging my head in shame, I put my money (or my energy!) where my mouth was, and founded WOBS. WOBS? stands for Women On the Business Stage. 

Over the past  years WOBS has evolved into  a 6 month programme for women in business to have the confidence, beliefs, skills and mega support to grow their business (and lives)

In May 2013, to enable more women to access mentoring and to ask, for free, the question/s that were holding them back from greater success I started WOBS On-Line Facebook Group. At last peak we are over 1000 members!

It’s FREE to ask any question you may have about personal development, business growth, public speaking – you have the question and we’ll do our best to answer it!

“I set this group up so that ALL women in business (or women who want to be in business) have a have place where you can ask questions about your business, maybe something you are stuck with and don’t want to share in the main social media areas, somewhere we can support each other to build on current skill base, tools and knowledge and a place we can give support and confidence.

I have been lucky to have been able to access some very high quality and high value business and personal mentoring over the past 10 years and I know not everyone is able to access such resources … I would like to share as much as I can here with you and that way I also get to continue to learn and develop as you ask questions within the group”

Here are a selection of the questions that have been posted and answered since the group started in May 2013:
• Any advice on how to market my most recent business venture
• Does anyone know how to put a ‘contact me’ form on Facebook please?
• QUESTION…about Direct Mail campaign postage costs.
• Does anyone know of a word press web designer who is reasonably priced.
• I can get a bit stuck in terms of who I am talking to in respect of copy etc – any thoughts?
• Has anyone here been to any of the 4Networking groups?
• Membership sites: alternatives to Jigsawbox
• Using boost facilities on facebook for business pages
• Anyone used dropbox
• How do I set up a free dropbox account
• How do people get speaking gigs
• Thinking of joining LinkedIn – does anyone have any hints or tips for me please x Many thanks x
• Help with Aweber sign up etc
• Logo advice
• Can anyone recommend good and easy to use short video editing software?

Our WOBS members use our Facebook group as a major part of their support and advice networks – and you too, can benefit from that help and support, by taking out a free one-month trial. Find out more & get your first month free.

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