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When Social Media Overwhelms – 7 Strategies to Deal with ‘Am I Good Enough’

NSBAAHMI38 (1) womanm back to usThis was the question recently posted in our WOBS Online Facebook group by one of members – and here is a summary of the advice posted in response.

“As soon as I look at social media I feel low. And it’s not looking at my friend’s holiday snaps that do it. It’s all the biz related stuff. I am bombarded by people / ads all telling me how to be successful and how successful they are. It brings up feelings of not being enough, of failing. I know the simple solution is to not check social media but I have these same feelings when I’m in work mode. Yet I know social media is an integral part of my business. I can tell myself a million times over not to compare but I can’t help it. It just happens.

Tips on dealing with this please. I can’t not be on social media but how do I manage the negative feelings it brings up in me?”

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confrontational situations

How to deal with a potentially confrontational situation

confrontational situationsWe’ve all experienced confrontational situations. Whether it’s in our personal or professional lives, it’s never easy or nice. There will be times when you know in advance of such events, such as work meetings and family gatherings, meaning you can better prepare yourself, but this, unfortunately, isn’t always the case.

So how can you positively deal with a potentially confrontational situation – both before and during the event – without it leaving you upset and emotionally drained? Continue reading

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How to increase motivation when life gets in the way

change your motivationJuggling our work and home life can weigh heavily on us all, especially when something happens in our personal life that demands our full attention. As highlighted in a recent conversation in our WOBS Facebook group, when a family member becomes unwell, a relationship is struggling or someone needs your support – you can guarantee it will happen just as you’re trying to finish an urgent order or clear the existing backlog you’ve already accumulated – meaning a drain on your time and your energy levels.


But it isn’t just unexpected emergencies that can drain your motivation and energy. Having a huge ‘to-do’ list or dealing with lots of ‘have to do’s’ can have the same debilitating effect. Continue reading

3 ways to beat the Post Holiday Blues? (guest post)

image for maria furtek blog sept 2014Have you got the Post Holiday Blues?

I know I have! The kids went back to school yesterday; no more care free days; no more late nights; no more lie ins; no more sunny days on the beach or swimming in the sea; no more drinking wine and lazy BBQ’s – I can feel my energy going down just writing this.
It feels like all the fun is over and it’s back to work; homework; ironing and routine.

If you feel like this too, what can you do to raise your spirits and your mood as you move forward into Autumn?

Firstly, just remind yourself, that the feeling of “flatness” or the “post holiday blues” is actually more common that you probably think. The thoughts of shifting up a gear again after the holidays can initially be quite daunting. However, my experience is that once you get back into the swing of things, it is usually better than you anticipate.

The following tips below may just help your mindset around the post holiday blues:

1) Book in some things in the next few weeks that your really enjoy: it may be seeing a good friend and catching up after the holidays; inviting friends over for dinner and having a bit of a party evening; booking a lovely massage (If you live local to Sutton, Surrey then I’d recommend my colleague: Munira Rasul info@tri-essencetherapies.co.uk); or even during the week, stopping work at a reasonable time and watching a “feel good film” or reading a “holiday type book”. Give yourself a bit of a “holiday feeling” during the routine of your week.

2) I know I talk about this an awful lot, but keeping a gratitude journal is also a good way of raising your spirits. Writing down all the good things that are in your life right now, including all the lovely things that you have been doing doing the Summer – this will connect you with all the positive, happy and good things in your life and re-activate some of those feel good memories and feelings too.

3) I am a great believer in living in the present moment –  the power of now! However, at the end of the Summer I often find it really useful to think about and start planning towards all the lovely events and things I love and look forward to in the seasons of Autumn and Winter – things like long walks and kicking up the autumn leaves, to wrapping up warm and being by the sea, to celebrating my son’s birthday (November) to the obvious of Christmas and the festive season. Remembering that each season has it’s own nuggets of gold and joy, can really help me move forward post Summer, with a sense of anticipation and joy.

A guest post by one of the WOBS Business Training Academy members:

Maria Furtek http://www.mariafurtekhypnotherapy.com